Mar 20, 2018
Last week we began discussing the horrible “F” word of
forgiveness. My friend and Pastor Jeremy Yancey was on the show.
The show became really good, but it was also really long, so we
just divided it into two parts. This is the follow-up to last
week's show. We dive into the stages of forgiveness and how to free
yourself.
I have heard from so many of you that you needed to hear this
teaching from this point of view. You needed to hear this
perspective and be reminded that there are some unresolved
feelings. Some of you may even have bitterness, unforgiveness, and
resentment in your heart. The message resounded with you guys as
much as it resounded with me.
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Show Notes
- [02:26] There has been broken trust in Jeremy's life but
nothing that he considers horrific. He has seen it with family and
friends though.
- [03:45] There are certain laws and principles of life that help
us understand how to live.
- [05:00] Step back and do a personal inventory. It's possible
that the issue has grown bigger than it should have. Begin to
identify the areas of hurt. Rage and unforgiveness is a process
that grows.
- [06:46] How I don't care is a protection mechanism, because if
you don't care about something it can't hurt you.
- [07:39] Absence can build walls. Then you start thinking about
something that happened and ruminating about it and it becomes
worse.
- [08:29] When you escalate things in your mind, you start
believing things that aren’t true.
- [09:26] You can't really trust your own judgment when you are
hurting. You can't trust your own emotions when it comes to
forgiveness.
- [11:46] A lot of people struggle with unforgiveness, because
they try to find the strength within themselves.
- [12:11] If you have the humility you can learn from anybody. If
you are a Christ follower, you can get strength from
Jesus.
- [12:58] Find some people in your life that will talk honestly
with you and come from a balanced perspective.
- [13:36] Try to listen to people who actually want you to get
better.
- [18:25] Choose how and where you're going to spend your energy.
Don't waste it on holding a grudge or trying to get
revenge.
- [18:42] Spend yourself on releasing. Which is for you.
Reconciling which makes things okay but maybe still little
delicate. Restoration is where things are whole, and you trust each
other again.
- [20:53] Preempting best practices like not being easily
offended. Understand that conflict is part of life.
- [21:45] Understand the level of trust that has been broken. We
want to know that we are safe and that we can trust the people we
are with.
- [23:03] Being easily offended comes down to being
vulnerable.
- [24:25] Put your hands out in front of you with your palms up
and make the tightest fist you can. Hold that fist, then slowly
release it. When I walk with clenched fists I miss opportunities
for growth and opportunities to hang onto something
else.
- [27:07] Lean into the pure love of God, and you will receive
what you really need. This will lead to a less stressed life and
less regrets.
- [29:54] Lightning round. Find out how Jeremy really feels about
life, science fiction, comfort, strange food choices, road trips,
and more.
What? Your pastor isn’t a Hype Man for a middle aged white woman
rapping… If you haven't met Mama Bear, check her out here with JY in this
hilarious parody featuring your very own Melissa Radke and Jeremy
Yancey.
Can't get enough? We went back and did FOUR more follow ups to that first
video, and at least three of them, you don't want to miss!
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