May 14, 2019
Are you trying to juggle work,
family, home and all of your obligations? Too often we try to do
everything and please everyone and end up feeling guilt or shame
for not being able to do it all. My guest today has practical tips
and advice for any of us who feel like we are stretched too thin.
It’s such a pleasure to have Jessica Turner on the show
Jessica is a wife, mom, sister,
friend, marketing professional, blogger and best-selling author of
the books The Fringe
Thin. In this episode,
we talk about her new book. We also talk about why some moms who
work-at-home don’t really consider themselves working moms. We talk
about automating, prioritizing, getting help, and giving yourself
permission to say no. We talk about those important things that we
all need to do to help keep ourselves sane and at our
- [05:25] It's still a tug-of-war
with working moms and stay-at-home moms. Working is bringing in an
- [06:11] Women who work at home
don't see themselves as working moms.
- [07:03] Women who work from
home often don't want to call themselves working moms. Maybe it's
because of some type of social stigma.
- [09:00] A lot of stay-at-home
working moms think that if they don't technically get in their car
and go somewhere that they aren't a working mom.
- [09:30] Jessica went to
Melissa's book signing in Nashville.
- [10:00] Melissa thinks
Jessica's book is for busy moms not just "working"
- [10:16] Jessica surveyed 2000
women who work or bring in some type of income. Stay-at-home moms
who feel stretched too thin will get a lot of value out of the
- [12:45] Jessica writes about
boundaries with work, practicing meaningful relationships,
self-care, managing the home, and more.
- [13:03] Her research shows that
the greatest struggle for working moms is either self-care or
managing the home.
- [13:26] Self-care is probably a
little bit more of a struggle and that's what Jessica's first book
- [13:43] Women are great at
taking care of everyone else.
- [14:17] Self-care is necessary
and important and it shows our kids that they need to take care of
- [14:55] Self-care includes
investing in your passion, investing in your body, and spiritually
- [15:16] Try time tracking and
see where your time is going.
- [16:40] Track everything you do
for a week and how much time you spend on it.
- [17:10] See where you spent
your time and where you can spend your time better. Also notice if
you said yes to too many things.
- [18:37] Jessica tries to live
by the "if it isn't a heck yes then it's a no."
- [19:32] Sometimes even having
to pause is a sign that it's not the right time for
- [19:50] It's easier to say no
from the beginning then you say yes to something and have to
- [21:23] Just because
something's a great thing, it's not a great thing for you right
- [22:58] Working moms often get
left out. It can be hurtful to not be invited. Sometimes working
moms want to be included. Let your friends know you still want to
- [27:57] Subscription services.
Automating our lives is an easy way to streamline. This can free up
your mind and lesson the mental load.
- [30:22] House cleaners and
services like Grove Collaborative can be helpful. It's life giving
and helps other businesses.
- [32:40] The world will fight
for your time, and you have to fight back.
- [33:32] Mother's can have
friends. It's important to model relationships for our kids. It's a
life giving shift.
- [34:30] Glass balls vs rubber
balls. Glass balls will shatter if dropped. Treat yourself like a
glass ball not a rubber ball. Spend time where it is important.
Relationships and self-care are glass balls.
- [37:29] Think about how you are
feeling and use it as motivation to make changes in your
- [38:04] Often, we push our
feelings aside instead of using them for change.
- [40:44] Jessica answers the
- [45:03] Women need to be
empowered to not feel guilt and shame and take time for self-care.
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