Jun 26, 2018
My good friend Whitney Lindsey will be here to share her story,
but first I’ll be reading an excerpt from my new book Eat
Cake. Be Brave. This is excerpt is
titled The Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose Lamp, and
I feel that it is especially relevant to the conversation I have
I met Whitney when she was going through an extremely rough time
in her life. You might even say she was broken. We can go through a
lifetime of throwing away and exchanging broken things, when things
can often be fixed. Today, we shed light on what Whitney was going
through as a person as she went through this season of her
life. Then we talk about who Whitney became and the season of
her new life.
You can find Whitney here:
Lindsey on Facebook
- [01:59] Excerpt from Eat Cake. Be Brave. The
Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose Lamp.
- [05:32] The first night that Whitney and Melissa met was at a
Bible Study Class that Melissa was leading called Victory Over
- [06:57] Whitney was a little late to class that night, because
she was a single mother of three daughters who she had to take to
- [07:16] Whitney came into class with poor posture and a
- [07:33] Three months prior to the meeting of this group,
Whitney discovered that she and her husband weren't compatible
anymore. This was the beginning of a long dark painful experience
in their marriage.
- [09:02] They had days and days of trying to make things better,
but it only made things worse. More buried things were brought to
- [09:42] Whitney's husband left, and it was a brand-new life for
- [10:05] Whitney was shy and hid in the shadows of her husband
during her marriage. Now that her husband was gone, it was time for
her to come out of the shadows.
- [11:01] Whitney knew it was time for her to make a change in
her life, and she signed up for Melissa's Bible study
- [12:02] Everything loses power when it is brought out into the
- [14:04] Exchanging broken things that we think can be
- [14:19] We're going to go from the inside out and talk about
who Whitney was as a person while she was going through this
- [14:47] Whitney wanted to overcome where she was and learn a
new identity. Was she going to continue in darkness or go down the
path of light?
- [15:58] You can go to church your entire life and still not
understand your identity to Christ.
- [16:53] When you know how much God loves you, it changes your
worth and what you need from people.
- [18:01] Did Whitney become broken in marriage or did she go
into the marriage broken? Whitney believes that her brokenness was
one of the factors that ended her marriage.
- [18:57] You can look whole and yet be fragmented.
- [19:29] Marriage is hard.
- [19:58] Whitney wanted to fix things because, she didn't want
people to know that things were falling apart.
- [20:27] There was a huge adjustment. Whitney not only lost her
spouse, she lost her home, car, and her friends.
- [20:41] Women often lose their self worth when their marriage
- [21:24] Whitney decided to start fixing herself. This was the
beginning of a new day and a new journey.
- [22:34] Whitney made it a priority to spend time with God. God
gave her grace and favor the day she decided to turn things
- [23:37] Whitney is now a product of a restored marriage, but
this is more about what was happening to Whitney on the
- [23:57] Lovers and Leavers and staying and fixing and
working on a marriage.
- [24:34] Marriage is hard. Staying and making it work takes
- [25:34] Whitney believes that your greatest ministry is in your
struggles. She was all in trying to make her marriage
- [26:47] If God had not restored Whitney, her marriage would not
have been restored.
- [27:14] Do the hard work yourself and become a self
- [28:08] Whitney's faith brought her husband back. He saw her
whole attitude and demeanor change.
- [29:38] You can't argue with kindness.
- [30:18] Whitney has natural kindness, but she also extended
grace towards her husband before the healing process
- [30:25] She extended the grace to her husband that God had
extended to her.
- [31:16] Sin is sin. We all mess up. None of us are perfect. If
we all extend grace, the world would be a better place.
- [32:32] Kids see and feel everything during a
- [34:10] Whitney's daughters got to see Whitney live a life of
independent freedom and loving life. They also got to see her
parent's marriage restored.
- [35:29] Whitney started dating Justin, and they got married
again on a Saturday.
- [36:50] Her daughters carried a sign that said, “Daddy, here
- [37:08] Whitney's first marriage has been nothing compared to
her second marriage. Whitney went from needing her husband to
wanting her husband.
- [38:12] Without the divorce, Whitney would not be the woman
that she is today.
- [39:05] It has been a whirlwind of three years, and Whitney is
humbled and awed by what God has done.
- [39:56] Why are we so quick to want to replace broken things
instead of fixing them?
- [40:18] There is so much beauty in the brokenness.
- [40:50] Living a stained glass life. It's all of those broken
pieces that make us who we are. God puts all of these pieces
together to create a masterpiece.
- [44:12] The lightning round…
- [45:49] More from The Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose
- [48:09] The fixer is Jesus.
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