Mar 12, 2019
We miss so many good
opportunities, because we won't walk across the room. I was at the
same conference as Nicole, and I asked what brought her here. She
said that she's a mom of four and two of her children are almost
grown and two of her children are still at home, and she has been
looking at her life and thinking what's next. Do you ever wonder
what's next for you? Are you ever looking for something
Nicole Botha is excited by
travel. She is an experience seeker. She loves yarn and is
intrigued by diversity. She finds authenticity stimulating and
suburbia frustrating. She is a feeler and an introvert. She is
moved by heart connections, and she thinks kindness is sexy. She is
here to today to discuss what it means to want something more and
how to find that something.
You can find Nicole here:
Nicole on Instagram: @niccishoo
- [03:34] Nicole is on the East
Coast of South Africa.
- [04:07] South Africa celebrates
Christmas, but the weather is different. Her family took a road
trip and discovered the country and then went to Cape Town and
- [04:58] Then some of her family
climbed Kilimanjaro on January 1st.
- [06:15] Melissa met Nicole at
Bob Goff's Dream Big Conference.
- [06:21] Nicole and her husband
got married in their early twenties. They have been married for 27
years and have four children.
- [06:46] Their oldest daughter
is in her last year of college and is hoping to go study in
- [06:56] Her next daughter is
almost 18 and summited Kilimanjaro along with her
- [07:11] Their son Chase is 15,
and son Rory is 11.
- [08:24] The greatest thing
about moving away from family is that you are left with only
relying on each other. This creates opportunities to grow and
- [10:24] Nicole had a lot of
problems with one of her daughters, and it took her a long time to
get over the control she had over her.
- [11:57] The worst thing she
ever had to do was tell her daughter that she didn't have to love
- [14:39] She told her daughter
that she couldn't cross the bridge to see her anymore, but her
daughter was welcome to cross the bridge to visit her.
- [16:19] She also apologized to
her other children for all the attention and energy they had to
give to her one daughter.
- [17:33] It's not healthy for a
family to have problems that they don't talk about.
- [21:40] Nicole learned that
just because her children are different, it doesn't mean that she
is a failure.
- [22:12] The key is the way that
we respond when things go off the rails.
- [26:12] Nicole has no problem
with challenging societal norms. She won't just lie down and play
- [27:11] Rebels with a cause is
about when God puts things in front of us that are different and
how doing the same thing everyday to deal with it doesn't work. We
can force everything to be the same. We are all here for a purpose
and have different treasures within us.
- [33:42] How there's a swing
with people beginning to realize that they can be vulnerable with
- [36:18] Things are now okay
with Nicole and her daughter, and they are even
- [37:58] Our lives and our
families are in jeopardy if we don't have an ongoing relationship
- [40:17] Nicole is trying to
turn more in to God, she visualizes herself in a duvet and rolling
- [43:46] Nicole answers the
rapid fire questions.
- [47:31] I really loved this
interview and how down to earth Nicole is. She does what she can do
and lets God sort out the best.
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